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Part 2 -The Sexless Marriage Survival Guide

Part 2 – The Sexless Marriage Survival Guide

This is part two of the survival guide if you find yourself in a sexless marriage. These are my best tips to thrive and still be so in love with your partner. It is absolutely possible and I am here to testify to it. Unfortunately,

The Sexless Marriage Survival Guide

The Sexless Marriage Survival Guide

For most of my six-year marriage, my husband and I have been in what is considered “a sexless marriage”. We had sex, on average, once a month (or every few months ) for quite some time unless we were trying to conceive. Many life changes

Sex Work is Work

Sex Work is Work

I have found it remarkable that in all of our years of having orgasms, discovering g-spots, and debating the nature of squirting, that there is still any question of how hard sex workers work. There is still the dismissal of sex work even being work.

How to Approach Kink Without Judgment

How to Approach Kink Without Judgment

Let’s get kinky! And, no, I do not mean that as a nickname for being freaky. Kink is its own category of desire that holds entirely too many taboos around it. Instead of addressing the ins and outs of it, let’s talk about how to

3 Ways to Escape the Friends with Benefits Zone

3 Ways to Escape the Friends with Benefits Zone

Lately, I have been talking with single friends about two of the hardest places on earth to escape: the first is the friends zone and the second is the friends-with-benefits zone. We seem to only think about how men experience the friend zone but recently,

Am I Poly Or Am I Healing?

Am I Poly Or Am I Healing?

Even though polyamorous relationships have long-existed, there seems to be an uptick in interest in the past several years. Popular reality shows, like TLC’s Seeking Sister Wives and Seeking Brother Husband, have started conversations online about just how popular (or unpopular) it is for people

Cultural Crossovers Part 2 - Dettol in the Bath

Cultural Crossovers Part 2 – Dettol in the Bath

Social media has been a gold mine of cultural exploration and excavation for all of us in the diaspora. From Africa to the Caribbean Islands, to the contiguous United States, we are more alike than we are similar. The internet allows us to compare notes

Take Pride in Testing

In my early 20s, I got kicked out of one of my favorite gay clubs in DC for sneaking a drink to mybest friend, Ayael. The club had two rooms, with DJs that played two different types of musicevery night. The drinks were strong and

Be a Sensualist like Kelly Rowland

Did you see Kelly Rowland on the Lovers and Friends podcast? Its tagline says, “Intimacy expert and sexologist Shan Boodram takes a deep dive into anything and everything about sex, relationships, and the science of attachment every week..” And, baby, that is just what she