For most of my six-year marriage, my husband and I have been in what is considered “a sexless marriage”. We had sex, on average, once a month (or every few months ) for quite some time unless we were trying to conceive. Many life changes
I have found it remarkable that in all of our years of having orgasms, discovering g-spots, and debating the nature of squirting, that there is still any question of how hard sex workers work. There is still the dismissal of sex work even being work.
Let’s get kinky! And, no, I do not mean that as a nickname for being freaky. Kink is its own category of desire that holds entirely too many taboos around it. Instead of addressing the ins and outs of it, let’s talk about how to
Lately, I have been talking with single friends about two of the hardest places on earth to escape: the first is the friends zone and the second is the friends-with-benefits zone. We seem to only think about how men experience the friend zone but recently,
Even though polyamorous relationships have long-existed, there seems to be an uptick in interest in the past several years. Popular reality shows, like TLC’s Seeking Sister Wives and Seeking Brother Husband, have started conversations online about just how popular (or unpopular) it is for people
Social media has been a gold mine of cultural exploration and excavation for all of us in the diaspora. From Africa to the Caribbean Islands, to the contiguous United States, we are more alike than we are similar. The internet allows us to compare notes
In my early 20s, I got kicked out of one of my favorite gay clubs in DC for sneaking a drink to mybest friend, Ayael. The club had two rooms, with DJs that played two different types of musicevery night. The drinks were strong and
I love when social media reminds all of us in the diaspora just how much we have in common. It’s been responsible for trading insight on how we wash chicken all over the world, like those in the islands who use citrus for some razzle-dazzle.
Did you see Kelly Rowland on the Lovers and Friends podcast? Its tagline says, “Intimacy expert and sexologist Shan Boodram takes a deep dive into anything and everything about sex, relationships, and the science of attachment every week..” And, baby, that is just what she
Last month, my period returned after a two-year hiatus. Being pregnant, breastfeeding, and having an IUD kept it away for a gloriously long time. I went to the store and purchased my usual brand of pads and tampons that I’ve used since starting my period